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What are the parts of the body allowed for the one proposing to see?

September 20, 2012

The following fatwa translated from:

http://www.alifta.com/Fatawa/fatawaDetails.aspx?View=Page&PageID=6793&PageNo=1&BookID=3

س1: ما هي الأجزاء التي يجوز للخاطب أن يراها من مخطوبته؟ لقد سمعت كثيرًا من رجال الدين يحددها بالوجه والكفين، ولكني قرأت في جريدة (النور) التي تصدر في مصر، عن أحد الأحزاب السياسية، أنه يجوز للخاطب أن يرى قدم مخطوبته إلى ما تحت الركبة، أرجو أن ترسلوا لنا الرأي السديد في هذا الموضوع، وهل يجوز للخاطب أن يراقب المرأة التي يريد خطبتها أثناء سيرها في الطريق، وهل ورد فعلاً أن أحد الصحابة فعل ذلك؟

Question: What are the parts of the body that it is allowed for the one proposing to see of the one being proposed to?  I have heard a lot from religious men that it is limited to the face and the hands, however, I read in a magazine (an-Noor) which originates from Egypt – from one of the political parties – that it is allowed for him to see (as well) from the feet to below the knee of the one he is proposing to.  I would like for you to send us the correct opinion in this matter.  And is it allowed for the one proposing to watch the woman he wants to propose to while she is traveling in the street? Is it really authentically reported that one of the Sahaabah did that?

 

يجوز لمن أراد أن يتزوج امرأة أن ينظر عند خطبتها إلى وجهها بلا تلذذ ولا شهوة، ودون خلوة بها باتفاق العلماء، وقد شرع ذلك رعاية للحاجة، ورجاء أن يؤدم بينهما إذا تزوجها، وفي ذلك الكفاية؛ لأن الوجه مجمع المحاسن، وبه تندفع الحاجة، وأجاز بعض الأئمة النظر إلى الكفين أيضًا وما يظهر من المرأة غالبًا مما يدعو إلى نكاحها، ويجوز  للخاطب أن يرقبها أثناء سيرها في الطريق ليرى منها ما يدعوه إلى نكاحها،

Answer: It is permissible for the one who wants to marry a woman to look, at the time of the proposal, at her face without lust or desire, and without being alone with her by consensus of the ulama. That is legislated to take care of the need.  And the hope is that it enriches things between them when he marries her.  And that is sufficient (to look at). Because the good qualities are gathered in the face, and the need is fulfilled through this.  And some of the leading Scholars have also allowed looking at her hands and what is normally apparent from her which will call him to marry her.

It is allowed for the one proposing to watch her while she is traveling in the street in order to see from her what will call him to marry her.

 

كما روى أبو داود عن جابر بن عبد الله، أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: إذا خطب أحدكم المرأة فإن استطاع أن ينظر إلى ما يدعوه إلى نكاحها فليفعل، قال جابر: فخطبت امرأة فكنت أتخبأ لها حتى رأيت منها ما دعاني إلى نكاحها فتزوجتها ، وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: خطب رجل امرأة فقال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: انظر إليها، فإن في أعين الأنصار شيئًا رواه أحمد وأبو داود .

As comes in the narration collected by Abu Dawood from Jaabir ibn Abdullah that the Prophet (sallallahu alayhe wa sallam) said (translated):

When one of you proposes to a woman, if he is able to look at what will call him to marry her, then let him do so.”

Jaabir (radiallahu anhu) said (translated): ‘So I proposed to a woman and I hid from her until I saw from her what called me to marry her, then I married her.’”

And Abu Hurairah (radiallahu anhu) said (translated):

A man proposed to a woman, so the Prophet – sallallahu alayhe wa sallam – said (translated): ‘Look at her, for indeed there is something in the eyes of the Ansar.’

Collected by Ahmad and Abu Dawood

 

وبالله التوفيق، وصلى الله على نبينا محمد وآله وصحبه وسلم.

And with Allah is the success, and (we ask that) Allah raise the rank of our Prophet Muhammad and grant him peace as well as his family, Companions, and followers.

 

Answered by Shaikh Bin Baz, Shaikh ‘Afeefy, and Shaikh Ghudyaan

 

 (the following translated from):

http://ar.miraath.net/fatwah/3200

The following is part of an answer Shaikh Muhammad bin Haadee al-Madkhalee gave to a question on this topic:

 

يكفي أن يراها لوفي الشارع ، لوخرجت من بيتها ورآها فجأةً كفاه ذلك أومرت من البيتِ وكان في مجلس مع محرمها يكفيه ذلك ، أم الذي نراه الآن فيما يعرض علينا من السؤالات والإستفصالات التى تأتي فيها ، تأتي لهم بالعصير وتأتي لهم بالشاهي ، هذا غير صحيح ، والحديث قال فكنتُ أتلصص لها يختبئ يراها

…It is sufficient for him to see her in the street, if she left her house and he saw her all of a sudden, this suffices him.  Or if she passes by in (or from) the house while he was sitting with one of her mahrams – that suffices him (as regards the permitted “look”). As for what we see now from what is presented to us from questions and inquiries regarding this – that she comes to them with juice, or she comes to them with tea – this is incorrect.  And the hadeeth (of Jaabir ibn Abdullah) says: ‘I acted stealthily towards her’ (meaning) he hid to see her…”

Is it permissible for the one proposing to take a walk with the one proposed to?

August 17, 2012

Translated from alifta.com

 

س: هل يجوز للمرأة أن تمشي مع رجل وهما مخطوبان غير متزوجين؟

 

Q: Is it permissible for a woman to walk with the man who proposed to her when they are not married?

 

 

ج: لا يجوز للمرأة أن تخرج مع خطيبها قبل أن يعقد له عليها بدون محرم؛ لأن ذلك وسيلة إلى الفتنة وما لا تحمد عقباه.

وبالله التوفيق، وصلى الله على نبينا محمد وآله وصحبه وسلم

.A: It is not permissible for a woman to go out with the one who proposed to her without her mahram before the marriage contract is signed.  That is a way that leads to fitnah and to a result which is not praiseworthy.

 

And with Allah is the success.

(Answered by Shaikh Bin Baz, Shaikh Ghudyaan, and Shaikh ‘Afeefy)

Repeatedly Looking at the One Proposed to

August 16, 2012

Taken from: http://www.al-sunan.org/vb/showthread.php?2425-ÓÄÇá-áØáÈ-ÇáÎíÑ&langid=8

 

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاتهاخي الشيخ ماهر أحيانا أجلس مع خطيبتي ومعنا محارمها وبشكل شرعي ولكن فينتابني شيئ من الشهوة عند النظر اليها حتى انني أضطر لغض البصر الى أسفل فهل هذا هو زنى العين المحرم ؟!! ام انها خطيبتي ولي ذلك ؟؟!! وماذا عليا ان افعل ؟!!

 

Question:

(After the Islamic Greeting):

Shaikh Maahir – sometimes I sit with the one I am engaged to with her mahrams present in a manner allowed in the legislation of Islam. However, I am afflicted with something from desire when looking at her so I must lower my gaze to the ground.  So is this the prohibited adultery of the eye?  Or is it ok because she is my fiance (i.e. I am engaged to her)?  What should I do?

 

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم إذا لم يعقد عليها النكاح فلايحل له أن يكرر النظر إليها بشهوة فإن فعل فذلك من زنا العين وهوعاص لله القائل وقل للمؤمنين يغضوا من أبصارهم وإنما أبيحت الرؤية الشرعية لحاجة معرفة وصف المخطوبة لاالتلذذ بتكرار النظر إليها وكثرة مقابلتها فذلك حرام ليستغفر الله منه إذا وقع فيه وأما إذا عقد النكاح فتلك زوجته جائز أن يجامعها فضلا عن مجرد النظر إليها بشهوة

 

Answer (Shaikh Maahir al Qahtaani):

When they have not yet married, it is not permissible for him to repeatedly look at her with desire because this is the adultery of the eye and he is disobedient to Allah Who said (translated) ‘And say to the Believing men to lower their gaze…’ (24:30).  And the only thing permitted is the legislated look to fulfill the need of knowing the description of the female who is proposed to, not taking pleasure in repeatedly looking at her or making numerous visits to her because that is haraam.  He must seek Allah’s forgiveness for that if he falls into it.  As for when he has married her, then she is his wife and it is allowed for him to consumate the marriage with her which is better than just looking at her with desire.

 

And in this fatwa from alifta.com:

لكن لا تكرر النظر إليها بعد أن عرفت صفتها وشكلها

ولا تخل بها خشية أن يقع بينكما ما لا يحمد عقباه

But do not look at her repeatedly after you know her description

and shape and do not be alone with her for fear that something

may happen between you, the consequences of which

are not praiseworthy”

An answer by Shaikh Bin Baz, Shaikh Afeefy, Shaikh Ghudyaan, and Shaikh Qu’ood